Where have all the good men gone? My very own JAMB question!!!
Men, men, men!!! We can’t live with them, we can’t live without them.
Picture this, boy meets girl, boy asks girl out, girl does small shakara but eventually agrees. Just when girl starts to fall in love, boy
dumps her and moves on to the next target. It’s a
classic scenario. You could have met a guy that likes you, but once you
start showing even a hint of affection, he gets scared and runs away.
He might start missing your call and never call back; he might get so
busy you never spend time together anymore. He might even give you a sob
story; he just realized he’s not ready for a relationship. It’s him not
you (yeah right)! And then it hits you. You’ve been stringed along
again.
Why are guys like that though? I admit there are still some good guys
left, but my question is; where have all the good guys gone? And by
“good” guy, I mean a confident and trustworthy man. He respects and
adores his woman. He loves her in spite of her flaws and is sincere and
God fearing. In short, a good man treats his woman like a Queen because
he wants to be her King.
Forget about fairy tale stories of Prince charming on a white horse. I
think most women will prefer a regular guy that doesn’t play games with
her or toy with her feelings. A regular good guy. I have to say that it
is very frustrating being a single girl in Lagos. I wonder if it’s as
tough in other states. You’re constantly bombarded with images and
stories of supposedly happy couples and you wonder when you’ll have your
own happy ending. It’s tough because sometimes you think you’ve finally
met “The One” but then he goes out of his way to prove to you that he’s
not for you. How hard can it be to show care and give attention?
Also, it seems loyalty and monogamy is alien to men nowadays. Having
side chics or piece or whatever they call it has become some sort of
norm. In fact, even wives and girlfriends have accepted their fates and
they console themselves by saying: it’s just sex, he loves me, not her,
and he comes back home to me and things like that. I could scream!!!!But
I refuse. I refuse to accept that fidelity is a thing of the past. I
refuse to believe that cheating should be expected in a relationship. I
refuse to share my man with another woman and I refuse to lower my
standards. But my question still remains.
If there are still good men out there, then where have they gone? Are
they like the beautiful ones and they’ve not been born? If that is the
case, finding a soulmate in this lifetime is not certain. Are they all
married or in serious about-to- wed relationships? I didn’t receive the
memo that advertised good men searching for suitable wives. Are they in
another country entirely? I am seriously considering migrating. Lol
Where have all the good men gone? My very own JAMB question!!!
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